I am an only child. Specifically, the only child of a poet dad and an accountant mom. Growing up, having it all was never a problem. I always got to have it all since I didn’t need to share with anyone. But as I got older and my views of myself and society expanded, I began to realize that the notion of “having it all” is truly more complex.
The idea for the Having It All Project came a few years ago when there was a lot of talk in the media from women at the very top who were defining "having it all” as the balance of work ambitions and family priorities. They advised splitting childcare responsibilities with a supportive spouse and making it home by dinner time would ease the burden of being a working woman.
All of this I found to be interesting, but not entirely relatable. I knew that "having it all" is not as simple as the balance of work and life, having kids or not, being single or married, working for pay or staying at home, or making money or making art.
My goal with the Having It All Project is to share real women’s perspectives on what "having it all" means to them through their words and images. It is an ongoing project that continues to grow as diverse voices join in. I hope to open up the dialogue and encourage us all to think about the beautiful complexity of what “having it all” means to women today, decades after the phrase was coined in the early days of feminism.
This project is an exploration that begins with the inspiring women in my life.