in a relationship, daughter (age 6)
What does "having it all" mean to you? In my world, having it all means freedom—to explore the world and fill myself with all of its goodness. What that looks like as a professional is working from SF, NY, New Orleans, Bali, or wherever. Coffeeshops and poolside in tropical places are my favorite. It also means really satisfying my curiosity—as a lifelong learner, I am voracious. Right now, I am studying embroidery and augmented reality while writing 3 books, starting 1 company, participating in another, and founding a social investment fund.
As a mom, having it all means inviting my daughter to participate in my world--taking her to panels I'm on, traveling with her. Japan is our next adventure. It also means having and making time to be there for her summer camp xylophone performance.
Talk about the thrills and challenges of co-parenting.
Co-parenting comes with no challenges. My daughter's father (and now his girlfriend) are amazing. We spent the pregnancy working out a 16-page legal and, as importantly, philosophical agreement about how we were going to raise her as co-parents. It includes how we treat each other, how we educate her, her gap year after high school—as well as outlining how we split time. It's truly 50/50. We have a fabulous parenting relationship. And a lot of it owes to that document, as well as the intention and work that went into it. We've both lived into and lived up to what we created. He gets the credit for the idea. Best one ever.
What feeds your soul?
Music. Street art. Juicy fruit. Sunshine. Sparkly things. Long walks. Alone time. Fresh flowers. Silly puns. Big hugs. Bright colors. Great high heels. Learning. And love. I'm a romantic in all ways.
Portrait by Vivian Johnson